So college. A time of pure chaos. You’re either built or broken. Some graduate, some don’t. Old friendships die, new relationships prosper. Scary to think about, that college is a gate to a better tomorrow. But as I’ve found in 4 years, college is very much what you make of it. No other time in your life will you have the opportunity to create your identity, so it’s a shame when people reach their senior year and look back only to realize what they missed. People become obsessed with what they didn’t do rather than what they’ve done. So what’s a great way to ensure you do the most with the time that you have? Well the “simple” answer is to find out what you’re passionate about. Yet I’m in college and many have spent a lifetime trying to figure it out. So here are my thoughts:
- Do as much as you can while you can – You see an opportunity? Seize it. Don’t let it pass you by. If you end up hating the opportunity you’re given, take it as a learning experience and as a way to figure out what you don’t want to do.
- Keep a mental checklist of what you enjoy – No, it doesn’t have to start with the passion! Trust your gut, if you love picking up garbage, take a note. Once you have a good list of what you’re involved with, what you enjoy, sit down and take the time to reflect and find common themes.
- Don’t let others influence what you enjoy – If you like playing video games, great! If someone says it’s a waste of time, does it really matter? That’s their opinion and your experience shouldn’t be dependent on what they say. I, for example, am a comic book geek among many things. If you mention super heroes, I’ll light up and go on and on about it. Embrace every aspect of yourself and try to pull the good from the “bad”!
- Go with the flow – Be open to new experiences! Don’t say no, start saying yes! You never know what you might enjoy until you try it! So be brave and try to think “This didn’t happen as expected, but it ended up being better than expected”! You don’t have to enjoy every aspect of the adventures you go on, but do your best to pick out pieces of the experience you enjoyed. This will help narrow the search!
- Build Genuine relationships with others – Surprise! This may seem out there but it’s true! Make true, genuine friends. Questions you should be asking yourself: “Who do I hang out with?”, “Why do I hang out with this people?” and “How do my friends make me feel?”. The whole is better than the sum of the parts! Don’t forget to ask your friends about their passions as well!
So there you have it! My five tips on how to discover your passions! Hope it helps and thanks for reading!
Life can be a challenge and trying to do everything alone can be even harder. We, as people, have an innate desire to connect. There’s enough loneliness in this world and unfortunately as people, we tend to be attracted to the great communicators and don’t bother with the socially awkward. So what can the socially awkward do? I’m here to help.
A little background before I dive in. This year I have put a lot of focus into building better relationships. I started this year as a quiet, sad individual who said too much and tried just a little too hard to make others like me. While I meant well, I was, how do i put it? Well, I was more or less perceived as an asshole by others. And guess what? Nobody likes assholes. So let’s go over the do’s and don’t to make sure others don’t see you as an asshole!
- Make assumptions – Once you start making assumptions of what others think of you, it’s game over. YOU aren’t the other person and I’ve found out the hard way that until you talk to the other person, you should assume your assumption is wrong until proven otherwise.
- Be Direct – Say what you need to say, beating around the bush only leads to further frustration. The longer you wait, the more opportunity there is for doubt to enter your mind. Time is precious and it shouldn’t be wasted playing a guessing game with the other party. So go ahead, say what you need to say!
- Try to control the relationship – Yes life is scary and we try to control as much as we can to give ourselves the illusion of stability. Control never ends well, especially when you try to do so with people. Relationships form naturally and if you try to force them, you won’t make any friends. Everyone is unique and nobody likes being told what to do.
- Genuinely Listen to Others – I used to think I was a great listener, but in truth, I wasn’t. I was simply going through the motions (nodding my head, smiling, laughing, etc.) all the while waiting for the other person to finish (or briefly pause) so that I could make my point. What I’ve had to train myself to do is not push my agenda, to chat with someone for the sake of them being heard. You have to be patient. Listen first, be engaged, and more often than not the other party will want to hear about you.
- cross your arms – Watch your body language! If you are someone who crosses their arms out of habit, train yourself to pop your hands in your pocket, lay them on the side, or whatever else you need to do. Closed vs. open body language. It may not seem like much, but having an open posture will go a long ways in making you seem approachable.
- Smile – So important! If you’re upset? Smile! If you’re sad? Smile. If you’re happy? Have an even bigger smile! Smiling goes much further than making others perceive you as more friendly. Smiling, one, makes you feel better. And two, it has the potential to make someone else’s crappy day great! You’d be amazed by the power of a smile. So, go ahead, smile at strangers, friends, and whoever you might see! Don’t take my word for it, try it yourself and watch the magic happen!
So there you have it. A few Do’s and Don’ts that will help you build better relationships! Remember, building genuine relationships takes time! It won’t happen over night! Keep at it and don’t lose hope!
Hi all, as I’ve been learning lots in college, I’m at a point in my life where I’m confident to start talking about what I’ve learned. My background involves 4 years of studying business management, so let’s say I’ve been around the block.
This year I’ve worked a lot on my personal brand. More specifically, learning how to re-brand myself. I would go as far to say I’ve gone from 0 to 100 in relatively a short amount of time. Before I get carried away though, let me define personal brand. Simply put, personal brand is who you are and how you sell yourself to others. My favorite example of a great personal brand is Abraham Lincoln. Everyone has heard of “Honest Abe”, but where did that nickname come from? Abraham Lincoln himself. And guess what? Abraham Lincoln is remembered as one of the greatest U.S. presidents of all time, known for having high responsibility and making the right choices in the face of adversity.
Sounds appealing, right? So where do you even begin? That’s where I step in. Keep in mind I am speaking from my own personal experience and this is not a definitive guide to developing a successful personal brand.
- Create a plan of action – Simple yet often overlooked. Your Personal Brand will fail if you don’t know where it’s going. Take the time to figure out your passions and learn your strengths by doing. Once you have a grasp on what it is that makes you, you, start to figure out how you want others to perceive you.
- You are always building your brand, whether you know it or not – Personal Brand is every where. The instant you step out the door from the safety of your house, you are building your personal brand. Every smile you give to a stranger while walking, every handshake you make, every mundane conversation you have builds your image. Watch what you post on Facebook and be sure to put time and effort into a LinkedIn.
- Be Genuine – take time to look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself how beautiful, smart, and funny you are. You must believe what you are selling. If you tell yourself you’re ugly, stupid, and will never be good enough, then you are probably right. But if you keep telling yourself you are good enough, then you can watch the magic unfold.
- Be Patient – Building your personal brand takes time. The best advice I can give on the matter is that it’s the little things that count. Watching what you post on Facebook, listening to another person talk, or simply hanging out with other people, it all adds up. So take the time to invest in the short-term and it’ll pay off in dividends in the long -term!
- Don’t try to be something you’re not – This is by far the most important. You are you for a reason and when you try to be something you’re not, you’re wasting your time. That’s not to say don’t try new things, all I’m saying is find out what you’re good at (and enjoy) and work on selling that. Strive to be your ideal self, not someone else’s version of what you should be!
Thanks for reading, now go out and build your brand!